Our assignment for this week…

…yes, like secret agents. (Except that this message will NOT self-destruct in 10 seconds!)

Our assignment for this week is to seek to see The Child in everyone we meet.

If you look deeply, sit quietly and listen you will see The Child. This exercise is especially useful when the adult you are engaged with is an Irritating Adult because it takes extra effort to see The Child in that person without also wanting to turn them over your knee and give them a good spanking.

People have reasons for acting out, just like children do. They aren’t “just that way.” If you take a moment to listen and to see The Child within the angry adult, you may discover why they are the way they are, but more importantly you may discover your Compassion (yes, Compassion with a Christ-like capitol “C”). Once you have discovered (or is it recovered) your Compassion, all sorts of good things will follow. Your blood pressure will most certainly lower, your breathing will calm and your heart will feel softer and stronger and more bold, your mind will feel less of their stress and your own frenetic emotions will ease their struggle.

And then, and here’s the really beautiful part, and then they will capture – even without meaning to – they will capture your ease, your calm, your assurance into their own bodies. You may not see it, for they may be so good at masking their true feelings that even through your love and compassion they will be able to hold the mask in front of themselves and fool you into thinking that they have not understood your message of calm assurance. But don’t be fooled, for each time you reach out to that Angry or Irritating Adult with love and compassion and comfort, you weaken the arm that holds up the mask. You may never see the effect of your efforts, but someone will have that blessing one day. You don’t have to see the effect to know that it is there.

And what about you? Aren’t you feeling lighter, more loved and more holy? And isn’t that the whole point? You cannot control what others feel, only what you feel, and if you make even one more step towards a Christ-like state of being, then you have forged not only a path for yourself to follow, but a path for others.

I must ask you, which child are you today? The hurt child, the delighted child, the tired and cranky child, the lonely child, the rebellious child, the playful child?

~ by Kimberly Mason on November 12, 2009.

5 Responses to “Our assignment for this week…”

  1. Hmm – I’m the indulgent child today, but I’m taking myself in hand tomorrow LOL.

    What you’re suggesting is SO HARD sometimes – I just vibrate when I’m annoyed. I wonder if ever I can calm myself down in that moment…

  2. Oh, SOOOOO much truth in this post Kim! I deal with so many people, and try always to “meet them where they are” as we all are products of our childhoods, are we not? So many wonderful lessons to be learned in using this perspective.

  3. What a great post. I’ve really been struggling with compassion; I think this could help…

    • Speaking of compassion, have you seen the Charter for Compassion website? They got my attention when the listed Tutu, the Lama, Armstrong, Chittister and others as “affirmers”. Interesting.

      Oh, and thank you for the compliment. 🙂

  4. Thank you Kim for this prayer blog. Yes, I accepted the assignment. And yes, I did look for the child in someone when I was a bit irritated. Child of God disguised as an idiot was the description of both me at times and of others. Big smiles.

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